Questions, Questions, Questions …
When people know you’re a Motivational Speaker and a Life Coach, you often attract a lot of questions. Some really bizarre ones, especially if where you are involves alcohol! However, more often than not, the most commonly asked question is (in a roundabout kind of way) “I’m scared to take the risk… what should I do?”
This question arises in all stages of life. Whether it comes up in relation to business, relationships, finance, health or even as simple as deciding whether to go to a function where you know hardly anyone. This question appears in the form of fear.
Throughout my life…
I’ve seen a fairly common theme of FEAR. It started when I was a kid and it’s still sometimes true today, whereby I had so many fears that almost stopped me from doing what I needed and wanted to do… so many fears! You probably won’t believe me, but deep down one of my biggest fears growing up was – being seen as too gay… too girly… too flamboyant!!!! You see, it’s in our human nature to want to both blend in and stand out.
What I learnt later in life was how to lean into my fears, to not be afraid of them, but to instead own them in order to understand them. Sometimes when we are afraid it is because we are afraid of judgement, we are afraid of getting hurt or suffering a financial loss, or for even standing out too much or not enough. These little niggles of our conscience can tell us all the reasons NOT to do something. However, what I have learnt is to take a moment – breathe it all in and then listen out for the part of your intuition that reminds you WHY you are taking the step FORWARD.
Grow Into Yourself
I’ve developed confidence with most of the things I do, through practice. I’m so rehearsed at having fear, and moving forward anyway. For example: when I was afraid of opening up my new business ‘Ikin Achieve‘ for fear of failure, I acknowledged those thoughts and instead listened to the voice inside me that said ‘I can do this.’ It helped me understand that if I took this leap, I would be able to reach thousands of people to inspire them to be their most authentic, lovable and motivating selves each day.
Try Doing This…
Rehearse Fear!! Acknowledge it, and move forward regardless… And over time, rehearsal after rehearsal, you will watch that fear evaporate right before your very eyes. Then your own successes will instead take flight!
There is a little mantra I want you to remind yourself the next time you have a moment of fear. F.E.A.R has two meanings – Forget Everything And Run OR Face Everything And Rise. The choice is yours!
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